tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191568702011-12-13T22:14:04.927-07:00A recovery based blog. For sharing insights, networks, and information on learning to redo life, to create lasting inner personal change.xnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1431100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156870.post-19337412142721359352009-09-21T17:50:00.004-06:002009-09-21T18:14:02.481-06:00

Relational "Bill Of Rights""Declaration of Interdependence"I have the right to:• Feel respected as a person.• To be appreciated and not taken for granted.• Effective communication with others.• To have my privacy respected and to have boundaries.• To not be one upped or one downed.• Feel good about myself and my relationships.• To expect trust validation and support from those who are my friends.

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At the Celebrate Recovery group I attended this last Friday, I shared about my "sobriety" over depression. I have a tremendous amount of compassion with beings who struggle with this. It is debilitating, frightening, and can be relentless. Most people who have not struggled with depression tend to think you just need to have and express feelings of happiness to be better. But actually in my

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In repressive societies, dictators, and their governments attempt to control information. They use the common covert tools of the manipulator: FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt.) as well as overt tactics. Iran’s current blocking of cell phone texting and social media during the election is one example.Unfortunately, well meaning church environments can stumble down this same aggressive path. Usually a

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Others either on their own second journey, or observing this one, are invited to get more juicy tidbits, and particapate in the dialogue by following 2ndJourney on Twitter: @2ndjourney and the Tumblr microblog at 2ndjourney.tumblr.com.

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Recent studies of alcohol and substance abuse have shown us that addictive behavior can take other less recognizable forms. Popular terms like "OCD", "Workaholic", "Control Freak", and "Pervert" are examples. Sexual expression can be wonderful and healthy experience inside the right context. But for many it is a curse;Are you sexually addicted:1. Do you go from one relationship to another?2. Do

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Anne Jackson on Battling Porn Addiction - Check out Anne's Blog Flowerdust- Parent resources at theporntalk- The book and website "Dirty Girls: the new porn addicts"

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This website has a selection of ongoing or looped audio of waterfalls, fans, trains, background noise. To be used for relaxation or for those working in noisy distraction filled environments. This is a good tool if you find listening to music too distracting while you work like me. The Flash slide show is less then well done, I would prefer a full screen option and actual videos.

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If you have not heard about my microblog that features classic spiritual music from the 80's you might want to bookmark/RSS it: SpiritOfThe80s.tumblr.com1) Hear about weird history from 20 years ago.2) Non-believers, Skeptics, Undecided, and TO'd at God types, can add an obscure, hard to find, and sometimes brilliant music category to their library.3) Old School Believers can ruminate and say

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Today remind yourself: I accept help.

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I was asked to share my experience about the re:form conference recently held at my home fellowship Vineyard Boise.The reform initiative is the result of a vision Pastor Tri Robison set out in a prospectus I received when being invited to help develop the web communications, which have been primarily headed by Centaur Media and Jason Chatraw a journalist recently assigned by donation to serve

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I have mentioned this before but think it is worth repeating: Many people want to understand the 12 Steps and how they work, but get confused by the process. I have broken the steps into 4 easy to remember words for the impatient, in a hurry, and forgetful; Okay for myself, but I am willing to share:Truth : Without it you are in denial, and you can trust no one, even yourself. Hard core addicts

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"I caution you; there is inherent danger in black and white thinking. Failure to see the nuance, the shades of grey, the subtleties that life is abundant with, these places are where truth abides."anonymous

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The BaseballThe talented local filmmaker Brandon Freeman created this stirring short. It is a 10 minute reminder about life, consequences, and choices. (It also stars acquaintance Colin Mansfield.)

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“It is not so much our friends help that helps us, as the confidence of their help.”— Epicurus

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Plankeye from the Brick Testament. An all Lego Bible.

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The emotion cone, an interesting visualization. I think often times I miss the subtleties of emotions and go for the basic, mad, happy, sad labels. So this is a welcomed reminder of some of the other shades of feeling that exist.via hellomynameisleah

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American culture is one of repression (among others). And the Church is sometimes even worse. Most my life I have practiced not expressing my feelings openly. Crying, anger, laughter, excitement even sarcasm are often 'hushed' as children, by parents and authorities. I have even heard from the pulpit that anger is a sin. In turn, it seems now that I am older when I do let these emotions out, I

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I’m not super religious or anything; I just like the look of angels. — Master Chief from the Halo series

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I was at the reservoir after visiting my friends church, while I sat their praying I was listening on my iPod to Jeremy Riddle's song "Sweetly Broken". The mountain panorama and beautiful blue sky was marked only by two jet planes leaving plumes behind them.At the precise moment the plumes crossed the song broke into this chorus:"At the cross You beckon meYou draw me gently to my knees, and I

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“People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.” — Audrey Hepburn

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The bible teaches "turn the other cheek" this is often misinterpreted as a spiritual edict on passive behavior. In fact in both the old and new testament there were consequences to the nation of Israel's and the Church's constant passive and tolerant behavior.However, often aggressive behavior is seen as the alternative. Assertive behavior is the mandate for most religions. Especially the

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If you are not saying wait a minute, you might re-read this passage from the ancients:"The Spirit is willing but the flesh is weak."That is to say there is a lush green garden of life on the otherside of the dead desert of carnality, mediocrity, and materialism.Often times my fears, pain, stress, and mostly shame smite me and keeps me looking downward, fearful of the light, I starve my spirit and

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For the person who struggles with co-dependent or passive behavior, knowing what to do when someone violates your boundaries by overt or covert manipulation can be baffling.In my experience, not being able to maintain the integrity of your boundaries is one of the top relation issues that impedes enjoying others which leads to isolation and loss.I have come up with and been practicing an action

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The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action, while reason leads to conclusions. — Donald Calne, noted neurologistI have been pondering the misunderstanding that the mind is like a computer. Studies show our mind is an emotional tool. Processing

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"What other people think of you is none of your business."Lifted off someones mom.This is great thinking for the co-depndant who is always concerned with what everyone else is thinking and feeling.

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This Sunday, April 6th at 6pm at Vineyard Boise a reprise of reader’s theatre production of “Between Heaven and Hell”.It's a conversation between JFK, CS Lewis and Aldous Huxley shortly after all their deaths on Nov 22, 1963.It’s free,! (Tho donations will be taken)I wouldn't miss it for the world.

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Psychology has finally helped me to understand that God is just a figment of my imagination. My inner Id's need for a father. Jesus my need for a role model. The Bible is great science fiction that is too wild to have ever happened. From now on this blog will be dedicated to a a form of zen like atheism. I now see it is the only way. Thank you Sigmund Freud for showing me that there is no reality

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“It is not heroin or cocaine that makes one an addict, it is the need to escape from a harsh reality. There are more television addicts, more baseball and football addicts, more movie addicts, and certainly more alcohol addicts in this country than there are narcotics addicts.”~Shirley ChisholmDon't forget Workahol. The chosen drug of the Great Depression.

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"One sticks one’s finger into the soil to tell by the smell in what land one is: I stick my finger in existence — it smells of nothing. Where am I? Who am I? How came I here? What is this thing called the world? What does this world mean? Who is it that has lured me into the world? Why was I not consulted, why not made acquainted with its manners and customs instead of throwing me into the ranks,

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Clowns, animals, children (and likely angels) all have the uncanny knack for being "in the moment." So much emotional unhealth comes from repressed past, or depression about the past, and anxiety and fear about the future. What about right now? While you are reading this are you present, really alive, breathing, enjoying life? Worship, prayer, meditation all spiritual actions also performed in

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This is the thump dance remix. If this doesn't get you moving, you are dead. Full on Flatlining. Really.

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The Glue Society presents a gallery presentation of images depicting Biblical events as seen from a satellite. Images include: Adam and Eve in the Garden (my fav), The parting of the Red Sea, Noah's Ark, and shown here The Crucifixion. (see more here)

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“…You couldn’t write Narnia today and have it accepted by the evangelical world because [of the magic] and because in its metaphor, it effectively has a non-Christian worldview. Now, if we go to another fantasy world, we need to find Jesus there—literally. That is why the Harry Potter books are viewed to be straight from the pit. Even if Rowling says she’s enjoying Christian themes, forget it.

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Pulling up in what appeared to be a combination small diesel truck and dune buggy the 20 something young man said "hop in I will take you to the end of the road.." seeing my perplexed face he chortled enthusiastically "I just bought it, it is awesome!""U.n ..no, but thanks for the offer" Stammering I replied guardedly. Some of us have boundaries I reasoned, besides on my way to work."Come on!" I

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I had a friend tell me I should read this verse. My peave is when Christians will "give" you a verse. Not what it says just the reference. I think I feel manipulated to look it up. So often times I just nod and grin and don't bother looking it up. This time, however, I wanted to look it up with the faint hope of hearing from God. (reasoning how can I ask "Him" to speak to me if I am not listening

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AA 12 steps seem to have some redundancy. (Don't freak on me you avid AA'rs) Thus John Baker's program has boiled them down to 8 principles. In a flash of inspiration I have boiled them down to 4 easier to remember words:TruthTrustSurrenderCare• One must step out of denial, face the music, stop running, admit there is a problem and one must stay in that brutal predicament of truth.• One must come

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God madeAdam bitNoah arkedAbraham splitJacob fooledJoseph ruledBush talkedPharaoh plaguedSea dividedTablets guidedPromise landedJudges ledSaul freakedDavid peekedKingdom dividedProphets warnedPeople exiledHope roseJesus bornGod walkedAnger crucifiedLove roseSpirit flamedWord spreadGod remained.

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"Americans buy more than 20m new Bibles every year to add to the four that the average American has at home. Yet the state of American biblical knowledge is abysmal. A Gallup survey found that less than half of Americans can name the first book of the Bible (Genesis), only a third know who delivered the Sermon on the Mount (Billy Graham is a popular answer) and a quarter do not know what is

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This is an interesting link to a virtual prayer wall. Reading through it you can slightly touch on what it must be like for God.

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“I wonder if the oil changer guys will get mad at me for having so much snow on my car. After all it is inside, in a heated environment, and some snow might melt, creating a sloppy situation.”“Yeah, they might get a little upset, but I really don’t feel like cleaning the snow off my roof and trunk, isn’t that a little unnecessary? Won’t people be looking at me weird for doing that? Who cleans the

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I have narrowed down some direct benefits of the church based recovery program I have been involved with called Celebrate Recovery. While I have studied it's literature and even met it's founder, as all of mankind's programs there are faults, but a critique is for another post. You only have to go once and hear the testimony of a crack addict, prostitute, or alcoholic husaband and father who has

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Every once in awhile media transcends the commercial, the self effacing, the foolish, and the empty pursuit, and connects us to the human experience.

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'And you said,"Be still, my loveOpen up your heartLet the light shine in"Don't you understand?I already have a plan' moreQuite Van Morrisonish'.

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New Christmas OrnamentsWhile I am not any less human, this is just wrong in so many ways:"Robed and bearded Greek Orthodox priests and Armenian priests fought for over an hour using fists, brooms and iron rods as weapons."Favorite quote from blog comments: "It's too bad there isn't some sort of set of ethics or maybe a book detailing how these type of situations can be handled which these

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`Facts don't enter a world dominated by our beliefs.'Marcel Proust

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A short simple song about grace."Please hold me backif I tend to lose it and steer into old tracks.Please don't let me down this time.I've come a long way to just fold back into line"

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Jillian B. shares her story of traveling to Africa and her experience of mental anguish."..if only I could wake myself out of this unreality in Ghana I could live my real life or that I didn’t even exist at all, I was the creation of someone somewhere using me for entertainment. These thoughts came to me after night after night of no sleep and pacing around under a dark, muggy Ghanan roof: drums

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1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.3. Take responsibility for their feelings.4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions. (gasp!)5. Show respect for other people's feelings.6. Feel energized, not angry.7. Validate other people's feelings.8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions.9. Don't

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To live, man must hold three things as the ruling values of his life: Reason—Purpose—Self-esteem. Reason, as his only tool of knowledge—Purpose, as his choice of the happiness which that tool must proceed to achieve—Self-esteem, as his inviolate certainty that his mind is competent to think and his person is worthy of happiness, which means: worthy of living. These three values imply and require

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The "Bystander Effect" is documented human behavioral trait that describes the tendency for a group of people to do nothing when someone is being attacked or in need, or in an emergency situation. As opposed to the common action of intervention when only one person happens on the same situation. We assume someone else is going to or is doing something.

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glumbert - Don't Drink and Drive

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Not entirely true but a striking way to make a point.

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"One Day At A Time" Eagles

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via fuzzballchroniclesmusic by Ingrid Michaelson

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Fireman John of StopDrop&Recover blog reports on about.com article citing the Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment panel defining recovery as "a voluntarily maintained lifestyle characterized by sobriety, personal health, and citizenship."Personal health refers to sobriety and self care, while citizenship refers to "social health".I think the idea of social health is an excellent perspective on

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I just stumbled across this audio serenity site called "Bedtime Tunes" the songs are updated nightly. It is a nice little browser fed database with nice descriptions and tags. I am listening to one of my favorite female vocalists Anna Nalick "Wreck Of the Day" and it isn't even bedtime.

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Trippin' on some road trip? Cue up your instrumental mood music of choice and log on to passingby.net for an alternative to a fishtank or a fireplace or lapping seaside waves. It's like going on a long drive right from the safety of your own computer. I find it truly relaxing. (The best part is you can go left or right!)Passingby.net is also looking for video submissions.

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Some great tools for breaking the cycle of pain are:1) Take care of your self.2) Do something.3) Become aware of your "self talk" and and challenge the distortions.4) Limit the depressive symptoms. Feel your feelings be aware of what is hurting you, but do not allow yourself to slide into a pit or "over focus" and obsess on the negative.5) Refocus. Surrender your life, your relationships, your

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"Atheism turns out to be too simple. If the whole universe has no meaning, we should never have found out that it has no meaning. . ."C.S. Lewis

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Teh Holiez Bibul (The Holy Bible) LOLcat wiki.LOLcats are Laugh Out Loud captions with poor hacker/text message style grammer attached to photos of cats. This site has used colaborative input to create a humourus adaptation of the Bible.While many may see this as anathema or sacreligious and be offended. I have to point out that 1) Those who author this have to read it and understand it. 2) For

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"Everything will be okay in the end. If it is not okay-it is not the end."~ author unknown

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I mentioned previously the genius of Cesar Milan known as the "Dog Whisperer" watch the video below for a small taste of what I mean.There are several more clips on YouTube if you have dog issues. Or if you are like me; just fascinated at his understanding of dog behavior.

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Jesse Nilo from VineArts informed me via email that this month is national recovery month.some details from her email about the related art contest here in Boise: ".. (a) cool RECYCLED ART contest that will be shown at a rally to celebrate RECOVERY FROM SUBSTANCE ABUSE. Wow... art, recycling, and recovery.Art entries are due downtown on Sept. 18, next Tuesday. "Join the Voices for Recovery:

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"God if you must cut into me, I will try and stay still."

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Lighthouse Fellowship in Twin Falls, Idaho has started there own Celebrate Recovery group.I visited recently and had a chance to meet with a few new friendly faces.Announcement as taken from the website:"Every Friday @ 6:00pm in the Café Agape (meal included!). Come fellowship with us and celebrate God’s healing power in lives

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Alcoholism, has a big impact on others. As does drug addiction. Workaholism, eating and sexual addictions sometimes go under the radar, but they do just as much damage, but usually to the person themselves.While many of the addictive patterns are the same, I would note substance abusers tend to be more aware of the outward struggle , while neurotics tend to be more inwardly aware.

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10- year investigation concludes the Church of Scientology should be labeled a criminal organization.

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Via Don Piraro at bizzaro.com

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"All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force... We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter."Max Planck

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For those of you who learn visually these are some personal notes I was working out in my own mind. Notice in the third graph the blue is slightly transparent I think that variable represents many relationships. Where we may have some boundaries but they are not very solid or in the wounding process growth was halted. Which graph represents your relationship?(graph ap via crappygraphs)Update:For

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Calvary Chapel Pastor from my old hometown Daniel Fusco in Marin Countydiscusses hi six issues with the church network, denomination, movement,non-denominational ministry. Good for him for speaking out. Taking some risk and having an opinion. I hope he continues to become self aware.I also hope he takes a further step out of denial. I think many CC leaders are addicted to money and power and will

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I love it when the news covers a testimony. Who would have thought sharing there faith with an evil overlord would go national? This story about actor Hayden Christiansen who played young Darth Vader, who survived an 8 hour tow truck ride with one of them 'born agains' is encouraging.

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“ Although I’m atheist, I defer to Jesus on beggar-related matters. He said, if a man asks for your coat, give him your cloak too... Jesus did not say: First, administer a breathalyzer test to the supplicant, or, first, sit him down for a pep talk on “focus” and “goal-setting.” He said: Give him the damn coat."Stephen J. Dubner/FreakanomicsThe Economics of Street Charityvia jackcanty

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If you're going through hell, keep going. -Winston Churchill-

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“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Albert EinsteinWhile it may seem simplistic, I find this notion important to recovery. Folks trapped in neurotic and psychotic behaviors often continue to try the same thing over and over, denying that it is failing. To change your mind you have to change your thinking, to change

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Sam Chan has good words to say about positive thinking. He reminds us that the bible instructs the weak to say 'I am strong'. If you are suffering from compulsive habits don't let it get you down. It proves you are human, and means you are alive. Try to focus on being 'strong' despite your weakness. What strengths do you have?

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Info on social phobias. I did the test and it says I do not suffer from social anxiety.

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I snapped this at a local Mexican restaurant the other day. The table tent depicts a decadent dessert as as an alternative to highly priced counseling. (My convictions about the healing power of Mini Molten Chocolate Bunt cakes aside), we are in an era of DIY, where software and hardware allows one to be their own counselor. In some cases this is good. We could all assume responsibility for our

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"My way of joking is to tell the truth. It is the funniest joke in the world."George Bernard Shaw

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VideoJug: How To Give A Great Man To Man Hug

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Or as my brotha' Rich says "CDO..gotta be in the right order" then popping some virtual bubble packing is just for you. All the pleasure, no mess and you never run out.Start popping here

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Chill Master Flexgives the internets' the gift of serenity. Calming music, tranquil waters, fireplace, or ocean sunset simply to enjoy via your web browser. I find it delightful. Thanks 'flex.

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BUT HE LIVES AGAIN!

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No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I'm not talking about the kids. Their behavior is always normal.-- Bill Cosbyvia Mark O. Wilson

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Via Yahoo news robber has some wine and asks for a hug and then leaves.See previous hug video post here.

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Ahh I just completed my move back to Boise. It was a trial as I could not get a moving van out of Twin Falls for 5 days! But the 'eagle has landed'. It gave me some time to take my kids to the mountains. It also gave me 5 days away from internet, DVR, cable TV, cell phones, text messages, iPods, sattalite radio, books and magazines. Unwired. Made me consider the human aptitude for creating the

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Part of my recovery has been to treat myself to the occasional movie. As a recovering codependent I previously would never go alone. I would have wanted to "enjoy it more" with someone else, or taken a non-believer as outreach. Truth was I had lost my sense of self, and what was real deep, was not good.Another part of my recovery is to "do life differently". Low brow humor is not normally my

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My Father is genuine and pragmatic. He is also inventive, creative and an entrepreneur. 50% of his blood runs through my body.

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"Take my love, take my land,Take me where I cannot stand... I don't care, I'm still free, You can't take the sky from me... Take me out to the black, Tell them I ain't comin' back... Burn the land and boil the sea, You can't take the sky from me... There's no place I can beSince I found serenity, But you can't take the sky from me..."

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I was talking to a friend earlier about loss, and someone yesterday about reaching out, and it occurred to me that often I think of helping others in terms of direct actions, or words. Yet so much of what the Lord Jesus gives me is simply His presence. Rescuing people doesn't often work; they either resent it or we resent them for not appreciating it enough. Since my experience tells me isolation

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ExploreFaith has a nice little devotion area that has a daily MP3 audio clip to accompany a group of ideas and scriptures. (Too bad there isn't an RSS feed.)You know in today's devotion it has a 'chant'. I don't really chant in my devotions. It associates me with my childhood in a Hindu ashram. I tend to think of it as mindless repetition. However, my wife has seen studies that show certain

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"The people must believe they are not manipulated in order for them to be manipulated effectively."Winston Smith

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I hear a lot of talk now days from people going 'hey how did we get here?' A sense that the church has left the broken behind.How did we do it?Fear: When ever we let fear pollute our thinking. I am sorry but cultbusting and doctrine debunking is not really the activity of proclaiming the truth. I do not see Christ or his apostles spending much time on apologetics.Manipulation: Often times

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